The Chibur Library
Articles
Thoughtful writing on relationships, family, and self-understanding — from professionals who understand our world.
Tight Rope School
On learning to fall well, and what we have been calling yiras shamayim
Ani LeDodi VeDodi Li
The Chibur AI Symposium — voices on AI, relationship, and what remains human
The Power of Hey
One small word that reopens a conversation
Together, But Still Separate
On differentiation, and why closeness was never meant to mean sameness
What Genre Is Your Judaism?
Horror, Myth, and the story we hand our children
Breaking and Becoming
Supporting the hatching process of trauma therapy
Yomim Noraim: Existential Dread or Awe-filled Yearning
A personal story still unfolding…
The Search for Safety
Healing disordered eating — and why it's so hard
The Biology of Behavior
Why we do what we do
My Mother, the Ocean
On attachment, longing, and learning where the clear water is. Written from a client's perspective.
The Tool That Kept Up With Me
On ADHD, AI, and the courage to let your light out
Thriving with ADHD
A first-person share
When Chesed Misses the Mark
When does kindness stop helping and start hurting?
From the Sources: Self-Led Teshuvah
Reclaiming teshuvah as a loving process of reconnection
Ad SheYeratzeh Et Chaveiro
The three most important words in marriage — and in teshuvah
Likutei Halachot
Hilchot Pesach 9 — when fear breaks instead of builds
The Danger of Anxiety During Elul
An IFS perspective on anxiety, yirah, and returning
Letters to the Editor
Our readers respond
Dear Reader
From the Editor
We Don’t Parent Alone
On the humans we parent beside — and the Partner who was there all along
Surviving Summer
The Chibur chat — crowdsourced ideas for keeping kids busy, and sane, all summer
A Trail Already Paved
On family we cannot lean on, and the road to Hashem that stays open even when the first road is closed
Prayer of a Single Mom
A prayer from one single mom — on partnership, loss, and holding a home together with Hashem.
The Strange Disorientation of Healing
On divorce, the unfamiliar quiet of peace, and learning who I am when I am no longer surviving
There Are Many Kinds of Life
On borrowed armor, borrowed prayers, and the courage to stand before Hashem in our own words
The Back Page — It Just Needed a Kli
A note from the co-founder
Please Help Me Tell You What’s Wrong
A child’s letter to their parents
Two Jobs, One Lesson
The power of resources
Getting Through the Day
On the days you feel yourself slipping — a therapist’s simplest tool
When You Sit on the Floor and Feel Nothing
A psychotherapist’s personal reflection on numbness, grief, and finding your way into Tisha B’Av
Discovering Compassion
On the core beliefs we form as children, and learning to meet ourselves with dignity
The Festival of Tears
Why Tisha B’Av is called a moed — and what it asks of the heart
Acceptance Is Not Surrender
On grief, shidduchim, and the acceptance that can only grow from within
Welcome to Chibur
A warm welcome to the first issue of Chibur, and an invitation into a magazine about connection.
Protect or Connect
A therapist on IFS, attachment, and the difference between guarding ourselves and truly connecting.
The Peacemaker’s Stance
What Aharon HaKohen knew about shalom bayis
Addiction: Looking Beyond the Behavior
Recovery is not only possible — it can lead to remarkable emotional, relational, and spiritual growth.
Things I Wish My Kallah Teacher Had Told Me — and Didn’t
An anonymous open letter